Friday, May 30, 2014

Are the Masks a tool for Life Coaching?

Are the Masks a good tool for Life Coaching?

That's an interesting question to answer. I believe so and I want to try to explain why. Most of people think in Mask like something that is cover, hide and conceal parts of our face or body. For analogy, a “social” mask hide part of our real personality. “Take off your mask!” we can say when we think to have caught someone in flagrancy. Meaning we want this person to show us his or her “real self”.

But really, what's that's “real self” or what we intend when we ask someone to be his or her self?

If for sure we wear different “social” masks in our day to day life, the most interesting question is: where that masks are coming from? Who built them?.

I believe that all the masks we wear and inclusive the masks we do not wear, are a human productions, there coming out of our mind, triggered by what we like to call “reality” and whatsoever a “reality” can be.

So we make a lot of masks. One for a partner, one for a parents, one for a children, one for my colleagues, one for my boss or maybe one for my employees, if I am a boss. We build a mask for a good citizen or sometime for a bad one, other for friends and again one also for enemies.

For that I believe a huge part in a life coaching path is to help people to discover all the masks they are wearing and teach some skills about how to be a good director of that sort of strange theatrical company.

For that when people wear a “real artifact mask” over the face, something is happening, some paradoxical stuff are going on. The power of the mask is all here. A Mask over my “social mask” have the power to freed my self (whatsoever that thing Is) in a way that makes my discover other “masks” opportunities to use in life.

An artifact Mask over my “social-built masks” provoke a mind-burn out that literally, can re/start my grown and my change toward that better human been all of us we want to be.

In that sense a weekly group of wearing masks could be like a gym for your mind, a place where maintain your brain cells active and free to explore.

At the same time, a process of life changing could be better coached in some difficult steps with the provocative but sweet power of the Masks.  

Saturday, May 3, 2014

Maks and Poems: love or ...what?

It is difficult to find very nice poems about masks. Most of the poets seems to believe that you wear masks over something like yourself. And that is supposedly your  "real", "deep" and "unique" self. I call hat kind of "simplified" psychology, the "onion" theory, because it seems that humans works like onions. Inside there should be something very deep and sincere and if you start to take off layer over layer, one day you can meet the "core", your real self. I believe our soul is a complex stuff. I believe "core" (if there is one) and layers are built from the same person during the same process. I believe that in our lives we build and wear dozens of different masks, each of them part of ourselves, each of them "us" at the same level of dignity. Our masks, all of them, need to be respected and beloved.

Paul Laurence Dunbar (1872-1906)

      We Wear the Mask
    We wear the mask that grins and lies,
    It hides our cheeks and shades our eyes,—
    This debt we pay to human guile;
    With torn and bleeding hearts we smile,
    And mouth with myriad subtleties.
    Why should the world be over-wise,
    In counting all our tears and sighs?
    Nay, let them only see us, while
            We wear the mask.
    We smile, but, O great Christ, our cries
    To thee from tortured souls arise.
    We sing, but oh the clay is vile
    Beneath our feet, and long the mile;
    But let the world dream otherwise,
            We wear the mask!

The above poem appeared in Dunbar's first professionally published volume, Lyrics of Lowly Life, in 1896 by Dodd, Mead, and Company. It also appeared in the volume Majors and Minors from the previous year. It can be found, for example, in:
- Dunbar, Paul Laurence. The Collected Poetry of Paul Laurence Dunbar. Joanne M. Braxton, ed. Charlottesville: University Press of Virginia, 1993.
- Abcarian, Richard, and Marvin Klotz, eds. Literature: The Human Experience(Shorter Fourth Edition with Essays). New York: St. Martin's Press, 1988.